Where are you in the Drama triangle?
I am reading this book called “The Power of Ted†and they talk about the Dreaded Drama Triangle which is made up of three parts
1. Victim- defensive, submissive, over-accommodating to others, Passive-aggressive in conflict, dependent on others for self-worth, over sensitive, even manipulative, they’re often angry, resentful, and envious, feeling unworthy or ashamed about their circumstances.
2. Persecutor- (Perceived as the cause of the victim’s woes) who adopts that role tries to dominate others through blame, criticism, and/or oppression. These people are often authoritarian and rigid in their views; exerting power over others in an effort to keep others from having power over them they may act grandiose and self-righteous to mask their own insecurity. They can be manipulative and defensive, often launching preemptive attacks. For Persecutors, all situations are win/lose. Their motto is “Win at any Costâ€.
3. Rescuer-(Usually steps into the dance between the Victim and persecutor) Fear loss of purpose, need victims-someone to protect or fix, avoid abandonment be being there for others, they foster dependency by becoming indispensable to a victim’s sense of wellbeing. They often set themselves up for disappointment and rejection.
A person may play any one of these roles, or they may vacillate between them. These are all fear & Pride driven! I have reviewed my life and wow I can see that I have and do vacillate between all three of these.
This is not effective for having a peaceful life or living in the spirit of God. Scriptures tells us “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of Power, Love and self-discipline†and when we are in full Pride we usually do it all ourselves and leave God out of the equation.
Where are you in the triangle? How can you shift out of it and get into the spirit of God?
By: E5